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Kiss-In on Ho Plaza Protests Sexuality Bias of Valentines Day
February 13, 2009 - 12:00amLove — or, at least, lust — was in the air on Ho Plaza yesterday at 12:15 p.m. A group of roughly 20 students lined up to hold a colorful banner that read “QUEER KISSIN’ … in progress” and then proceeded have a queer kiss-in, which lasted about five minutes.
Direct Action to Stop Heterosexism sponsored the event, according to kiss-in participant Ashley McGovern ’09. She explained that heterosexism is “kind of like homophobia except heterosexism has to do with all facets of society … so the normalization of heterosexuality in society.”
A mouthful: A group of students staged a kiss-in on Ho Plaza organized by Direct Action to Stop Heterosexism yesterday.
Heteronormativity refers to the idea that heterosexuality is the “normal” sexual orientation. This includes the notion that people fall into two discrete categories — male and female — and that sexual relations are normal only between two people of different sexes.
DASH didn’t necessarily have sweeping or profound aims for the kiss-in, according to McGovern.
“It was just supposed to be a fun action before Valentine’s Day, it wasn’t really a protest, it was more of a visibility thing … just letting people know people are queer on campus and not afraid to be affectionate … that was the goal — visibility and having fun,” McGovern said.
DASH had been planning the kiss-in for a couple of weeks. “It was just a spontaneous action,” explained McGovern, “Most of the student participants are in DASH, but some are just friends of people in DASH.”
According to McGovern, the kiss-in was for visibility, “… not just for non-queer people but also for queer people on campus who feel like they can’t come out. It’s fun to see a bunch of people kissing and feel affirmed.”
Ryan Swisher ’12 was on Ho Plaza selling roses for Valentine’s Day for his fraternity when the kiss-in took place.
“It was interesting. Not something I usually see on Ho Plaza,” he said. “It was definitely funny to watch, but it was also good to see the diversity on campus.”
Steve Gravani ’12, who also saw the kiss-in, said, “I don’t have a problem with it, but I’m not sure what they were trying to accomplish by being out here today because I feel like they definitely raised awareness about their cause. But I’m not sure what their cause was, other than just that they were there.”
He suggested the group give more information about their cause.
“They were just out here holding a banner that said ‘queer kissing in progress’ and they were here for a few minutes, and then they just left. I’m not sure what they were trying to accomplish so maybe some context [would] give it more meaning. But if they’re just out here supporting what they believe in, then more power to them.”
A. Blum ’09, participant and member organizer of DASH explained the aim was simply “to promote the visibility of queer presence on campus and also to make a statement that resistance is fun.
“It was a little mixture of fun, silliness and making a statement that there are queer people here and we’re not afraid to express ourselves publicly … even in spite of the fact that Valentine’s day, which is coming up, really capitalizes on this heteronormative love,” Blum added. “There’s always lots of publicity about doing things for your wife or your husband or your boyfriend or your girlfriend with an overtone of heterosexism, assumed heterosexism.”
McGovern believes heteronormativity is a nationwide problem.
“I think Cornell is probably better than a lot of parts of the country, but it’s definitely a nationwide problem,” McGovern said. “If you look at Prop. 8 that passed recently, or President Obama thinking it’s okay to invite an extremely homophobic speaker for his inauguration … It’s definitely a national issue. It’s not that big of an issue here, but it still is an issue. I still get dirty looks kissing my girlfriend on Ho Plaza or like with a group of people.”
“We’re also doing a lot of community organizing because a lot of our resources are at stake and DASH is kind of leading the way on organizing these meetings,” Blum said.
DASH plans to host more events in the future, including more kiss-ins, film screenings, a panel discussion and “a big spin-the-bottle in the middle of Ho Plaza.”
While DASH hopes to raise more awareness with yesterday’s kiss-in, ultimately it is also important to have fun.
“[The kiss-in] was fun. All resistance should be fun,” Blum said.
“We wanted to do it,” she said. “I mean, every impact you make is in the moment. It’s just part of a big cultural change: x-ing out heteronormativity and celebrating everything.”

heterosexism is...
Heterosexism is not just about the NORMALIZATION of heterosexuality... but also the PRIVILEGING of heterosexuality!!! :)
"I don't have a problem with it, but...."
Hello moral credentials! What an irritating quote every step of the way.
"I'm not sure what their cause was, other than just that they were there."
God forbid someone's "cause" might be getting people to accept their presence.
"...out there supporting what they believe in."
People, it's not a BELIEF. It is a FACT OF LIFE. Biiiiiiiiiiiig difference.
Lust?
"Love — or, at least, lust — was in the air..." Look, everyone! This is a fine example of heterosexism. Is it not possible that some of the LGBTQ people at the kiss in are actually *gasp* in love? The reduction of same-sex and queer relationships to merely lust or sex has been and continues to be one of the many ways that heterosexism functions in our society. Not that there's anything wrong with just having sex or that people who do not equate sex and love are somehow wrong or "bad", but queer relationships have often been reduced to just sex, thus denying us the truth of the committed and long-term love relationships that we are very capable of having. Ashley is very right when she says that heterosexism functions as privilege. Their relationships are privileged over ours. Their relationships are called love while ours are called lust. Their relationships are codified, sanctified, and...you all saw this coming...legalized! Go figure.
As alumnus of this proud
As alumnus of this proud university, I must say this is one of the most disturbing things I have seen in the Sun. For the first time ever I have been compelled to comment.
Contrary the previous opinions posted, Shabto was generous in her description of the event and the self-described queers involved. While I understand all of the previous arguments posted about the goal to raise awareness (again, for what isn’t exactly clear), and all of that other feel-good politically correct BS, think for a minute people, would this ever happen in the real world? Jesus, I hope not. There is a reason these things don’t, and shouldn’t, happen in public.
Regardless of how noble or socially pertinent these queers think their cause is, the bottom line is this is unacceptable behavior. It doesn't matter if these people are gays, straight, transgendered, or whatever else people are coming up with nowadays: this is publicly displeasing and disrespectful to our university as a whole.
Stop being so damn self-centered, the issue isn't about YOU here. It never is, it is NEVER about just YOU and just YOUR cause. Protesting Valentine ’s Day because it is biased against queers? Are you serious? Why don't we protest Veterans day for being "non-inclusive" towards civilians, Christmas for being biased against Muslims and Jews, MLK day for being biased against the fine white Southerners I know and love, and my personal favorite Lee-Jackson day, for being biased against black people (wait... they already did that!)
Sadly, this is just another excuse by the LGBTQ community to get more attention, more publicity, and give them some sort of shock value to feel good about. Imagine doing that kind of thing in front of your boss. Please, grow up kids. And if you can’t do that, at least grow a spine- and think of a productive, intelligent, and socially meaningful way to spread your message.
"So damn self-centered"
Such a typical heterosexist response. I love that Kowbell says, "the issue isn't about YOU here. It never is, it is NEVER about just YOU and just YOUR cause."
Given that queer youth are, regardless of where they grow up, ostracized across the board and often subjected to violence and intimidation at school, at work, and at home, given that queer youth have astoundingly high rates of suicide and astoundingly high rates of homelessness (more often than not after their families disown them for being who they are), given that queer youth in many states, are not protected under hate crime legislation if they are nearly beaten to death while their assailant screams, "Faggot," queer activism is PROFOUNDLY about us. It is not about Valentine's day. It is not about "being so damn self-centered." It is about the solidarity I felt when I saw a photo of people with whom I identify in my adversity on the cover of this campus's daily newspaper. It is about the empowerment many queers around campus felt that day, an empowerment that may one day allow for more people to read what idiots like Kowbell have to say and see what is at the core: ignorance.
i think kowbell's just sad
i think kowbell's just sad she/he/ze didn't get some queer kisses... :)
we'll be sure to invite you around next time.