Sex on Thursday

SEX ON THURSDAY | I’m Bad at This

“You write a sex column. Aren’t you supposed to be good at figuring this stuff out?”

It’s a question I’ve gotten a lot — mostly in my own head — but also from a few friends who know the real person behind the pseudonym Reykjadick. The truth is I am very, very bad at this. I also have some minor successes. In the interest of providing the valuable insight that not all Sun Sex on Thursday columnists spend their time having elaborate sexcapades so elaborate they would make the wildest porno you’ve ever seen — complete with Fabio on Horseback — here are some tales of, well, not that.

Sex on Thursday

SEX ON THURSDAY | One Night Stands Do and Don’ts

One night stands have become a major part of college hookup culture. I have definitely had my fair share of enjoyable and odd forays into this sexual genre. Over my years of having casual sex, I’ve learned a lot about what makes them fun (and safe) and what can really kill the mood.  

Do: Use protection. Sounds straightforward, but it can be easy to forget in the heat of the moment, especially when you might be used to a partner who always remembered for you.

Letter to the Editor

LETTER TO THE EDITOR: Re: “Cornell Cinema to Receive ‘Bridge Funding’ from University for Next Fiscal Year”

To the Editor:

The decision to defund the Cornell Cinema was one of the cruelest, dumbest actions in the history of the Student Assembly. Thankfully, the Provost decided to provide the Cinema with bridge funding. Nonetheless, in light of the SA’s actions, it is time, once again, to consider the end of that body as we know it. A modest proposal: Let’s give the Student Assembly vote to anyone who shows up with a student ID. We’d call it the “Student Union Open Meeting.” With power vested in the many, not the few, proposals like the one to defund Cornell Cinema wouldn’t leave the cutting room floor. The history of direct democracy is rich — from the Athenian assembly to today’s New England town meetings.


GUEST ROOM | Cornell Welcomes Another Torturer

On May 10, 2017 the Cornell Club of New York invited former US National Security Advisor and Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice to promote her new book on “the global struggle for democracy and why America must continue to support the cause of human freedom.”   It was an unfortunate choice, as Rice was one of the first officials of the George W. Bush administration to have broken international and domestic law by approving torture of prisoners held at the Guantánamo Bay prison and so-called “black sites” run by the Central Intelligence Agency.  It is not clear whose idea it was to invite Secretary Rice to speak on, of all things, democracy and human freedom, but it was apparently a popular one, since the event sold out. As a Cornell alumnus I was troubled to learn that our fellow graduates found it acceptable to honor former government officials responsible for some of the most heinous crimes and violations of human rights. Now some of our students are doing it again, as the Cornell Republicans host ex-Vice President Richard Cheney.  The concern about honoring a torturer is not a matter of partisan politics, but of public record.


LEE | The Ideal Woman

The #MeToo movement and Women’s History Month have prompted me to reflect a lot upon what it means to be a woman. Hearing stories about how many people of my gender had been discriminated against, harassed, assaulted for being born with two X chromosomes sparked anger from deep within my heart. I wasn’t necessarily shocked. I mean, a lot of these accounts are what women actually face on a daily basis. I can still recall the exact moment in ninth grade when a man pushed his front up against my butt in a subway car, as well as how shaken I was as I told him to move over.



I woke up this morning in cold sweat from a dream that I slept through a prelim. Before I had a chance to reassure myself that it was a Monday and it was too early in the day to be sweating, I glanced at the 12 messages that needed responses on my phone, thought of the reading that I had to complete for my 10:10 class, and then felt the pile of laundry that has been sitting at the foot of my bed for the past week. I glanced at the date, only to realize that I had to begin racking my brain for an idea to write about for this column, and then noted the time only to realize that I had a meeting on campus in 15 minutes. As I rushed to try to pop a pimple under my nose and brush my teeth before I headed out the door, it dawned on me: Do I even have time to think? It was a question I asked myself several times last week each time I received a message from the University.


GUEST ROOM | Guns and Poses

When Nikolas Cruz opened fire in Parkland on Valentine’s Day, the shooting left in its wake not only the usual and maligned ‘thoughts and prayers,’ but an avalanche of gun control advocacy. However, the response to the Parkland shooting could, ironically, end up being detrimental to meaningful solutions to gun violence. Many on the left correctly criticize the right for being sensationalist and for seeking overly simplistic solutions to deep and complex issues. Yet, many gun control advocates seem to fall into the same trap. The elevation of the Parkland students to the forefront of the national conversation on gun control is, quite frankly, manifestly inconsistent.

Science Never _Disproved_ God-Drawing

BENITEZ | Science Never Disproved God

When I was 14 years old, a substitute teacher at my Catholic school decided to overstep his responsibility and debate God’s existence with a student. That student was me, and at the time I was firmly in the “God exists” camp, while he, ironically for a Catholic school, was very much of the opposite belief. If I remember properly, it was in science class, for when I challenged him for a disproof of God’s existence, his answer was to “look at science.” As my credulity toward science at the time was equal to that toward God’s existence, I had no response. I felt defeated, unable to defend the ideology that imbued my life with a profound sense of direction and meaning. In the eight years since, my religious beliefs have oscillated between devout Catholicism and militant atheism.


PARK | Former Trump Staffers: Where Are They Now?

Ever wonder what happens to the discarded frogs from Trump’s drained swamp? It seems that quite a few of President Trump’s cabinet members have fallen from his good graces. Perhaps he overstated his access to the best people, best managers and best dealmakers — or he hasn’t been able to shed his love for firing people. As an ILR student, I know that his hundreds of vacancies and record-setting turnover rates can indicate crippling inadequacies in the strategic management of his administration. But let’s not worry ourselves with such silly speculation.


MORADI | When Coming to Cornell Means Grappling With Guns

“But it didn’t happen,” is the chill response I got from some friends (and my mom!) after learning that we may have been tiptoeing along the asymptote of terror. Apparently being on the brink of tragedy doesn’t cut it anymore, and why should it? Our generation found perverse unity in the wholly American constancy of lockdown drills, in the nonchalance of backpack searches and school security cameras. If you were to print the Wikipedia page for “List of School Shootings in the United States,” it would be 172 pages long. (For comparison, “List of awards and nominations received by Meryl Streep” is just 35.)

Gun violence is so routine that it’s easy to forget that we’re living in an international abnormality.